Why Having a Tribe When Setting Big Goals is Important

In 2015, I set a goal that I wasn’t sure I could accomplish which was to run a half-marathon.  Anyone who knows me knows that I do NOT like running.  At that time, I couldn’t run a mile without stopping and would typically run intervals because I needed the short breaks to catch my breath every few minutes.  I continued to push myself though and found that after a few months, I was able to run further without needing to stop.  I remember a day in the summer of 2015 where I went out for a run at the lake and I was able to run 3 miles without stopping.  It was not a fast pace, by any means, but I kept moving the whole time.  That day, I thought to myself- I wonder. I wonder if I was able to increase my endurance this much, would I be able to keep working and actually run a half-marathon?  Was it possible?  So I shared my thoughts and then set the goal to run a half-marathon.  This was WAY outside of my comfort zone and I wasn’t sure if I could accomplish it.  Running 3 miles was way different than running 13.1.  Well, in February of 2016, I was able to finish the Disney Princess Half-Marathon (and I swore I would never do it again) 🙂

Post 8-mile rainy run

You may be wondering what the point of all of this is.  Over the last couple of years, I decided that it would be really cool to complete the Spartan Trifecta.  Again, way outside of my comfort zone.  But a chronic back injury and then back surgery kept me from being in any kind of shape that would be needed to even start training for this type of accomplishment.  Not only was there running (another half-marathon for the ‘Beast’ race) but having to contend with obstacles that would test my physical strength.  Well, I decided that 2020 would be the year that I would accomplish this.  I have to admit that I am nervous because this is a big ask.  But I mentioned it to a few people and then they were in to do the trifecta with me. We had a team of 4.  This past Saturday, I mentioned it to some additional friends while we were doing a longer run (because one of them is training for a half) and they all agreed to at least the first race.  Before the end of the day, there were 9 of us registered.

I’ve been thinking about this the past day and what really happened.  I shared a goal of mine that I was unsure I could accomplish and each person said “I’ll do it with you”.  Now, not all 8 are in for the full trifecta, but at least 3 of them are and the rest are willing to give it a try.  My goal now seems more doable because I know that I have the support of some really amazing people.  People, who without hesitation, were willing to invest their time, money, and energy to help me accomplish a BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goal).

I wanted to take a moment and reflect on this for three reasons:

  1. It is important to recognize positive moments and express gratitude for them.  And I am so very grateful for the tribe of people that I have in my life.
  2. It is so important to have a support system when you are trying to accomplish a big goal- especially one that is just out of reach of your current abilities.  This support system can often mean the difference between achieving the goal and not.
  3. Sharing your goals with your support system, even if they are not involved, can significantly impact your achievement through increased accountability.  Even if they don’t consistently ask you about your progress- just knowing that someone else could be watching can change your behavior and help you to be more consistent.

I will continue to post reflections as I start my training.  First race- April 4th, 2020.


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By |2019-12-02T15:56:01+00:00December 2nd, 2019|Mental Skills, Reflections, Spartan Training, Sport Performance|0 Comments

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